© 2005 WorldNetDaily.com
According to a newly released study,
born-again Christian parents are more likely to put an emphasis on
seeing that their children get a good education than seeing them enter
adulthood as followers of Christ.
The study, released this week by the Christian research company
Barna Group, finds born-again
Christians in the U.S. don't parent much differently than the population
at large.
The telephone survey of parents across America include 707
respondents, 366 of whom were born-again Christians.
Four out of every 10 parents, or 39 percent, listed getting a good
education as a critical outcome for their children they were committed
to facilitating.
Helping children to feel loved was the second most frequently
mentioned outcome at 24 percent, with enabling them to have a meaningful
relationship with Jesus Christ was cited by 22 percent.
Other desirable outcomes cited by parents were fostering a sense of
security, 16 percent, helping children to feel affirmed and encouraged,
14 percent, and providing a firm spiritual foundation, 13 percent. Ten
percent also said it was crucial to help their children feel happy.
Establishing appropriate moral values was cited as a critical outcome
by 4 percent of those surveyed.
George Barna, who led the research, broke down results of the
born-again Christian parents surveyed.
"Only three out of 10 born-again parents included the salvation of
their child in the list of critical parental emphases," he stated on the
company's website. "Parents cannot force or ensure that their kids
become followers of Christ. But for that emphasis to not be on the radar
screen of most Christian parents is a significant reason why most
Americans never embrace Jesus Christ as their savior. … The fact that
most Christian parents overlook this critical responsibility is one of
the biggest challenges to the Christian church."
Another section of the survey dealt with biblical absolutes and
whether or not parents teach their children that they exist. Of all
parents polled, 43 percent said they teach there are some moral
absolutes, while 45 percent said they teach that there are no such
absolutes.
The Barna study found most parents take a laissez-faire attitude when
it comes to monitoring media their kids consume.
A majority of parents, 56 percent, said they gave their youngsters
general guidelines about the amount and quality of media they were
allowed to access and then let the children regulate their media intake
by themselves. One-third of all parents, or 36 percent, strictly limited
the amount and quality of TV, music and other media the children were
allowed to access.
Another survey question attempted to ascertain how parents determine
whether they have been successful in raising their children. By more
than a two-to-one margin, 62 percent to 28 percent, parents define
success as having done the best they could, regardless of the outcomes.
Less than three out of 10 parents say the fruit of their efforts is the
defining factor.
Parental attributes
The Barna study found 36 percent of those polled say having patience
is a necessary attribute for parents to be effective, while 32 percent
cited demonstrating love.
The next most frequently cited attributes of effective parenting were
enforcing discipline and being understanding. Each of these qualities
was named by 22 percent of parents.
Having a significant faith commitment and an identifiable set of
religious beliefs was mentioned by just one out of every five parents as
an ingredient required for parental success, the study found.
Several other qualities were named by at least one out of every 10
parents. Those included having good communication skills, 17 percent,
being compassionate, 14 percent, knowing how to listen, 12 percent, and
being intelligent, 11 percent.
Barna was surprised by the lack of difference between born-again
Christian parents and those who were not.
"You might expect that parents who are born-again Christians would
take a different approach to raising their children than did parents who
have not committed their life to Christ – but that was rarely the case,"
Barna said. "For instance, we found that the qualities born-again
parents say an effective parent must possess, the outcomes they hope to
facilitate in the lives of their children, and the media monitoring
process in the household was indistinguishable from the approach taken
by parents who are not born again."
Barna said there was one distinction he noticed.
Said the researcher: "Born-again parents were twice as likely as
others to teach their children that there are certain moral absolutes
they should obey. However, even on that matter, less than six out of 10
born-again parents took such a position."
Barna says the results of the new study are not unlike previous
surveys he has done.
"For years we have reported research findings showing that
born-again adults think and behave very much like everyone else," he
said. "It often seems that their faith makes very little difference in
their life. This new study helps explain why that is: Believers do not
train their children to think or act any differently. When our kids are
exposed to the same influences, without much supervision, and are
generally not guided to interpret their circumstances and opportunities
in light of biblical principles, it's no wonder that they grow up to be
just as involved in gambling, adultery, divorce, cohabitation, excessive
drinking and other unbiblical behaviors as everyone else."